Before I utter anything, let me begin by saying that you make your own choices and decisions, therefore I will not judge you. We frequently fall for individuals who are unavailable and love is not black and white. You should know the truth of what you are getting yourself into and what lies ahead of you if you’re in love with a married man. Although all relationships have their own challenges, being the other woman brings with it a new set of challenges. Below are things you need to know.
He will not abandon his wife.
Are you aware that less than 5% of men will abandon their wives for the woman they are having a relationship with? Regardless of anything he’ll say about his wife, he’ll never leave her.
This may be due to a number of reasons like; protecting his image, his beliefs in terms of religion, financial constraints that might come due to divorce and maybe he still loves his wife. Even though he might not say it.
Therefore, just know that he won’t leave, everything is just words. Actions will speak louder.
He would be with you if he wanted to.
People will always do anything for those they value at the end of the day. If a man wants to be with you, and share his life with you, he will do it. It doesn’t matter what it will cost him as long as he loves you.
Nevertheless, if he just wants to sleep next to you and won’t leave his wife for you then it means you’re not so important to him. He will definitely replace you with someone else if you decide to leave him. You may not want to listen to this but, wear his shoes for a while. A man who wants you will want you for himself. He’ll know that other men are also interested in you, therefore, will rush things and get married to you as soon as possible.
Cheaters will still cheat.
Were you aware he was married before you started dating him? Did you find the truth on your own, or he was honest with you in the beginning?
And if he lied to you, is he to be trusted? And if he is cheating on his wife with you, what makes you think that he won’t cheat on you with another woman? If he cheats with you then he’ll definitely cheat on you.
You don’t have to be faithful if he’s not.
Quite a number of women who are in a relationship with married always do the mistake of being faithful to them while the men themselves are not faithful.
If you don’t know what you’re to him for months or years then take that as an advantage and start dating. That doesn’t mean you’re cheating because he is married and so you can do anything that makes you happy. You’ll also not be into him too much since he might not even be available to you.
Your affair should have a definite time limit.
For how long will you be the other woman? Make sure he knows when he is supposed to be with you before you start the relationship.
If he’s resistant on giving you the time frame, then it means he doesn’t value you.
Take note of how he speaks about his wife.
Does he seem to respect his wife and give honest opinions on why he doesn’t want to be with her anymore? If that’s so then it’s an indication that he truly respects women and is most likely being honest with you.
But if he speaks badly of her and blames her for everything then it means he doesn’t respect women and is most probably lying about everything.
Just imagine you were his wife, would you fancy being spoken about that way?
Men cheat for sex.
Men purely cheat for sex but women cheat for affection and emotional connection. Therefore, even if you’re in love with him just know he will not reciprocate the feeling. You are just being used to fulfill sexual desires.
And do not believe him when he tells you that he’s no longer having sex with his wife. He is definitely sleeping with his wife but lying about it.
Get a life that he doesn’t have to be involved in
Have friends outside that relationship. The future of this kind of relationship is not known therefore, you need to have a strong relationship outside it to help you overcome the highs and the lows when it arises.
Are you happy?
Know if whatever you’re doing makes you happy and if it’s what you want. Once you’ve done, you’ll figure out the kind of man you want and if the one you have is good in terms of morals and character.